TAKING A STEP BACK TO MOVE FORWARD

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Sometimes in life you just need to take a step back. Analyze the situation. 

As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, I thought that I was going to have a clear path after graduating from school. It turns out , that’s not the case. 

I took a little bit of a turn, and guess what – IT’S OKAY! 

I needed to have time and space to really assess how I was feeling about my career path, and about my life, about what I want out of life. 

I’ve come to this conclusion. What I want is to spend time with my friends and family who I love. I want to travel, I want to feel calm and peaceful, I want to learn. 

What I don’t want is for my job to be my life.

I have been criticized before for not pursuing what my parents and I spent tons of $$$ for me to learn. Everything happens for a reason though, and I have a feeling that things will come full circle. I will end up utilizing the skills I learned in college to do something that makes me happy. 

At the end of the day, taking time to re-assess your goals, is time well spent in my book 🙂 

“Sometimes you have to take a step back and look at your life, in order to take a step forward and move on in it.” ~ Rashida Rowe

 

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Decisions Shape Destiny

I was on Netflix the other day and I decided to watch TED Talks – Head Games Episode 2 ” Why We Do What We Do” with Tony Robbins.

To be totally honest, it wasn’t my favorite thing ever. I’m not big into the self help lecture style of bashing you over the head with crazy high energy and “motivation,” BUT, aside from the delivery not being my style, Tony did say a couple things that stuck in my head.

#1 NOT RESOURCE, RESOURCEFULNESS.

Tony spoke about how people often make excuses for not doing things because they don’t have the resources meaning- Money, Technology, Contacts, Experience.

In reality our only limitation is our resourcefulness  – so no more excuses!

#2 He then talks about how three decisions determine our resources. He says that Decisions shape Destiny. 

The three decisions are :

What are you going to focus on?

What is the meaning of what you are focusing on? 

What is the emotion that will lead you to action?

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This came into my head today because I was looking on this dancers website, and she had a workshop posted taking place in October in…MARRAKECH!!!!

I’ve been wanting to go there FOREVER, and as soon as I saw it I thought – “Ughhhh, well that’s never going to happen… I’ll never have enough money, I don’t know what I’ll be doing at that time of the year…etc”

Then I decided to change my attitude.

I decided to work backwards. Starting with the thing I want to focus on – going to Marrakech.  I am focusing on going to this workshop because I want to improve my dancing and I want to be a professional dancer, I want to explore and learn about culture in Morocco, and this is a way for me to do it all. Thinking about the possibility of going made me feel excited and want to figure out a way to be resourceful. So, before I wrote this post, I went on a bunch of different travel sites and set up alerts for cheap flights to Marrakech. I also emailed the dancer and asked if price was negotiable and if there is a possibility I can do some kind of free work for her to lower the cost. I know all this sounds super obvious – like  – why wouldn’t you do that? but it’s easy to just dismiss things without giving them a chance. So we’ll see what happens – *fingers crossed!*

Oh… I also added a photo of Marrakech to my vision board 😉

 

 

Patience Is A Virtue

Last night I had a series of strange dreams, as usual. In one of them, I was with my friend Catherina. She and I were in college and we were at a student produced concert. We left durning intermission. We stepped out of the dark auditorium into a very quaint sunny town.

There were trees everywhere and cobblestone curved roads. It was refreshing to be outside, but there was an old energy in the town, like I had lived there before in another time. We started walking away from the auditorium and came up to a very lovely church. Catherina was thirsty so she ran around to the side of the church , which had some kind of outdoor patio/kitchen set up. She grabbed a yellow and blue china mug and filled it with water. I had followed and was rushing her along because I didn’t want to get caught stealing from a church!

We made our way back to the front of the church were there was a sun room. There was a short bald man wearing a long-sleeve white shirt, sitting at a little card table. He looked like he was tired and had been doing some kind of manual labor, maybe gardening, I thought.

He looked at me and asked me ” Do you have a sore throat?”
I responded “Yes, I do actually, how did you know that?” ( I had a sore throat last night before I went to bed lol )
He said, ” I’m a psychic.”
“Will you read my cards?” I asked.
He agreed and I asked him, ” How can I fix my health problems ?”
He shuffled the deck ( it was an oversized deck – maybe 8.5×11)and pulled out a card. The cards corners were all colored a pale yellow and in the center in black script was the word ” Patience.”
I asked another question,”How can I figure out my purpose?”
He shuffled again and pulled out a card, again it said ” Patience”
I asked question after question, although now I don’t remember what the rest of them were and I kept getting the same answer, “Patience.”
Then the man turned over the deck showing me the face of every card. Every single card said ,”Patience.”
He smiled at me, not a tricky smile, like ” Oh , got you!” But a sincere smile, like he was really trying to help me, to tell me something I needed to know.

Then I woke up and wrote down as much as I could remember.
I think it’s really important to remember to be patient and not drive yourself crazy trying to figure everything out. It’s important to trust and be open to possibilities, to let things unfold, instead of forcing them. Clearly I needed that reminder.

“Have patience with all things,but, first of all with yourself. ” ~ Saint Francis de Sales
Xo

N

Vision Board

Recently a lot of things and relationships that were holding me back, and in the past, have ended. I would be lying if I said this didn’t make me sad, but I also think it’s the universe’s way of giving me a huge kick in the butt, launching me into the future.

When I was thinking about letting go of my past yesterday, I decided I needed a way to really visualize and learn what is coming next.

I remembered reading something about a vision board – maybe in Seventeen Magazine when I was a teenager lol. Anyway, for whatever reason at the time I decided that I didn’t need to make one.

Now, however, I feel like it’s the perfect thing to do.

A vision board is a collage of images. Images of things you want to do, to feel, to be, to have. It’s kind of like a visual way of “speaking things into existence.”

I definitely believe in the power of intent. I also think that going through a process/ritual makes your intent stronger.

So…here goes…

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Before starting, I googled, “How To Make A Vision Board” and I found this link : http://christinekane.com/how-to-make-a-vision-board/#sthash.QgFR48fd.dpbs which is great. You can read the whole thing – but I’ll let you know what I did, and you can change any of the steps to make it more authentic to you.

*Note – this is not just a project for women – men can do this too! I know its “crafty” but just ixnay the glitter and you’ll be fine 😉 *

Step 1: Light Incense and turn on Spotify ” Meditation Playlist.”  Meditation – Patience and Solitude (Relaxing)

Step 2: Ask the Universe to help me create a board that will inspire me and point me in the right direction. *If this is too hippy dippy for you skip it! Or if you don’t need help figuring out what it is you want to do, skip it!

Step 3: While meditating write down every word that comes into my head. *Just something I felt like I should do.

These are the words/phrases that came into my head:

Water

Be Creative 

Art Gallery

Safe

Loved

Peaceful

Learn 

Fun

Calm

Step 4: Go through magazines and tear out anything that makes me happy/ portrays my vision for the future while keeping an open mind.

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Step 5: Make a vision board on Pinterest …because magazines don’t have everything…

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Step 6: Sort Images. I made two piles – yes and no. Pretty simple. Just trust your gut on what should go on the board and what shouldn’t. Don’t think about it too hard and if there is an image that you really like, but you don’t know if it has to do with anything, just stick it on anyway! According to what I read the meaning will be clear soon.

Step 7: Intuitively arrange images on your board (I cut my board into a circle)  and glue them on (I used rubber cement). If you want, put a picture of yourself smiling in the middle.I did. At first I thought it was really weird to do that, but it actually makes total sense. Just think of it as you smiling at everything that you will accomplish – it’s all about positive energy and the power of attraction!

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Step 8: I added the words that I thought of while meditating and some other words/phrases that I found in magazines. Then I added evil eyes around the circumference of my board to protect me in all my future endeavors 🙂 And of course I added glitter…why not…

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That’s it! Then hang it somewhere where you’ll see it everyday.

Good luck and let me know if it works, I’ll let you know if mine does!

xo

N

What Would You Do If You Could Do Anything?

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This morning I woke up thinking about the question:

What Would You Do If You Could Do Anything?

It’s such a simple question, and one that I’m sure everyone has been asked/asked before.

I went to design school. I majored in Fashion Design. I loved it. My dream was to have my own line, not to be famous, but to be recognized and appreciated for what I do. If someone asked me 5 years ago, “What would you do if you could do anything?” meaning money is not a factor, my answer would have been,”start my own line.”

For the last two weeks I was helping a friend of mine sew a couple of looks for a contest she entered. The prize is getting help starting her own line.

We worked tirelessly to make her dream come true. It’s funny, because I thought going into it, that I would feel inspired to do the same. To my surprise, I never had the thought, “I wish this was me” or “I wish I could get help starting my own line.”

While sewing, we were catching up, we hadn’t seen each other in a couple of years actually. I told her about my struggle between finding a job doing something I know how to do and I’m good at, and taking a different path.

That’s when she asked me, ” Well, if you had millions of dollars and you could do anything you wanted to do, what would it be?”

I thought about it and the first thing that came into my head was ” Travel and dance” (I’ve gotten really into dance the last 3 years).

Then she added ” I mean in fashion, what would you do if you could do anything in fashion?”

I told her, ” Actually, when you first asked, fashion didn’t even come into my head”

She replied, ” Well maybe that’s your answer.”

Then we spitballed ideas about what I could potentially do.

I’m glad she asked me this simple question, because it really made me think, maybe I’ll even come up with something good 🙂

So I have to ask… What would you do, if you could do anything?

You never know – maybe answering this question will lead you in the right direction…

My Motivation

So, I ended my day feeling a bit frustrated and conflicted.

Why? Well…

I am currently unemployed. My last job was stressful to the point that I have developed a variety of health problems that I am still trying to recover from.

Looking for a job has proven to be more difficult than I anticipated because…drum roll please…I have no idea what I want to do…ahhhhhh! I haven’t seen one listing that made me say ” wow! I would love to work there!”

And honestly, I’m at the point in my life where I feel entitled to have that reaction, why should I go from meaningless job to meaningless job? Right???

I am constantly trying to resolve my inner conflict between feeling the need to figure things out and feeling pressured to just get a job doing what I already know I can do, back in the same high stress environment.

So, today I decided to apply for a job at a local gym, which seemed like a good idea, because it is part- time, leaving plenty of time to figure out what my next step is, and I would get to take free classes.

My parents are not into this plan. They don’t understand why I would want to work somewhere, for essentially less than I made in high school, when I have a BFA from a prestigious school and work experience galore.

The problem is, I’m just not that passionate about “what I do” anymore. At least not as passionate as I am about other things. Why should I have to decide what I want to do for the rest of my life at 17 years old – it seems a bit crazy.

There is a constant ebb and flow in life, so it only makes sense that as you grow and change your interests do as well.

I want to “stop trying to find the forest and just enjoy the trees”.

Anyway, I think there are probably a lot of people out there like me, wondering what they’re next step is, which motivated me to start this blog – if you’re out there, you’re not alone!

Let me know your thoughts,

xo

N